It's not them, it's me

I just realised: it's not them, it's me. When we visit them I fit all my plans around the way they live. When they come to visit us, we sort things to suit them. I tend to feel put upon when we part "why are they so selfish?" "why is it all about them?"

Well it just clicked, it isn't. Its just the way I am, I tend to do this all the time. I always fit in with what others want, so it's not them it's me. They are't selfish, I'm a pushover. Very frustrating, but it does make it easier to realise. Turning things around, they aren't at fault, I just need to become a bit more assertive. Easier said than done, but I can do it.