Bears with heart

Two of my friends are going through a hard time at the moment. One just lost her husband after a two year battle with cancer, and the other has just found out that her cancer is back after a two year reprieve. I think they need a boost, so I made them Bears with Heart. It is the same bear that I posted about earlier and I found a pattern for the heart on the web. I hope my friends love the bears, and feel a little better for receiving them.

It's not them, it's me

I just realised: it's not them, it's me. When we visit them I fit all my plans around the way they live. When they come to visit us, we sort things to suit them. I tend to feel put upon when we part "why are they so selfish?" "why is it all about them?"

Well it just clicked, it isn't. Its just the way I am, I tend to do this all the time. I always fit in with what others want, so it's not them it's me. They are't selfish, I'm a pushover. Very frustrating, but it does make it easier to realise. Turning things around, they aren't at fault, I just need to become a bit more assertive. Easier said than done, but I can do it.